Marriage Regret – “Why did I Get Married?”

“WHY DID I GET MARRIED?”

Have you ever asked yourself the question, “Why did I get married?”

Marriage life can get so overbearing at times that you may wonder how you got into it at all. For most people, this question of course usually comes up around the same time that something is going wrong.

HOW OFTEN DO PEOPLE ASK THE QUESTION, “WHY DID I GET MARRIED?”

5 people that were married for a period of 5 to 10 years were asked if they have ever asked themselves this question.

Surprisingly, only 1 of them admitted to asking this question at some point in their marriage. The consensus of the others was that because the good in the marriage outweighed the bad, they never felt the need to ask this question at all.

For some people though, this question can have a valid meaning based on the nature of their issue. For instance, having a cheating spouse or perhaps an abusive spouse could prompt this question. The reality is, if this question comes to mind during a marriage, it may indicate serious concerns within.

I wonder though, is this question always valid?

What does this mean?

Well, does this question somehow come to mind when couples are faced with the simplest of matters such as a minor disagreement or a minor misunderstanding and should it really?

Do you remember when you wed that person you loved on that beautiful day? Everyone looked so spectacular and lovely. The day was perfect, the sky was bright blue or the stars were shinning bright, and so on. Remember when you said those words, “for better or for worst”, yes, those vows!

Marital issues, like many other issues, can be broken down into minor and major categories.

Truth be told, if you analyze some situations that arise, are they really that bad, or is the line of thought perhaps the result of an overreaction.

HOW TO AVOID MARRIAGE REGRET? HERE’S A TIP

Sometimes, married couples just need to take a pause when things are not going quite right and just evaluate the situation. When issues arise which could be deemed minor, you may find that you just need to talk things through for a minute. Major issues of course, may require a little more talking and a little more time to work out, but it’s doable.

From experience, a good approach to take is to talk things over with your spouse right away while the issue is still fresh in the mind or has just happened. Be respectful though, and each party must be willing to listen to the others’ views. Hashing it out right at that very moment (in private) helps to get the matter resolved more quickly.

If the matter is resolved, then the question won’t have a chance to come up.

Looking for more guidance to help strengthen your marriage and avoid regret? Check out this book ‘Marriage on the Rock’ by author Jimmy Evans.

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